Collaborative Law

Putting Children First: How the Collaborative and Mediation Process Can Help in Separation and Divorce

When you have children, the process of separation or divorce becomes more complicated than it would be with just two people. It may benefit everyone to use a collaborative or mediation process when going through a divorce or separation.

What are Collaborative and Mediation Processes?

Both the collaborative and mediation divorce processes involve settling the divorce outside of court. Created as more peaceful alternatives to litigation, unfortunately, they don’t work for everyone.

With mediation, you and your spouse meet with a mediator who helps you both agree on a settlement. You also have separate lawyers to consult with outside of the mediation to decide whether to accept an agreement.

The collaborative process also involves you and your spouse hiring separate attorneys. Your attorney meets with your spouse and their attorney. Likewise, their attorney meets with you and yours to come to a peaceful agreement. During this process, you might have other professionals involved, too, like a therapist or financial coach to help you divide assets and aid in determining child custody.

How Do Collaborative and Mediation Processes Benefit Children?

You can avoid the stressful experience of going to court if you and your spouse can settle between yourselves and your attorneys, which helps everyone. Children often benefit the most from collaborative or mediation processes. These types of divorce proceedings can result in more peaceful negotiations. By choosing collaborative and mediation processes, you may comeout of the divorce with a better relationship with your ex-partner and your children. You also show your children that divorce or separation doesn’t have to be as messy as many people assume it is. When you maintain a positive or amicable relationship with your former partner, your children are less likely to choose sides or favor one parent over the other. By avoiding many of the